Surprise birthdays are fun! Surprise getaways...a total blast!
Surprise pregnancy...*record scratch*...that's a whole other story.
Seeing that positive pregnancy test can bring a lot of emotions up, sometimes all at once. Disbelief, joy, fear, anxiety - it's a lot to process!
First of all, deep breath. We are here with you and it is 100% absolutely okay to feel whatever you are feeling. So how do we deal?
It's okay to not be okay.
It’s been said that feelings are not facts, but let’s be real. Our feelings have power and they affect us, so let's take a moment and be honest with ourselves.
No judgment, just honesty...how are you feeling?
If you're feeling angry, nervous, in denial, overwhelmed, or anything, own it. Dealing with your feelings is hard enough without trying to pretend that they aren't happening. So take that pressure off and let yourself feel whatever you are feeling.
It is okay to not be okay. It is okay to not be happy or sure. In fact, pregnancy and emotions go hand in hand - you're going to have a lot of feelings over the next 9 months. Some of those feelings are going to be uncomfortable.
We promise you - it is okay to not be okay.
Your emotions may be a rollercoaster, so ride it. Accept them as they come and let them come and let them go, as they will.
Talk it out
Get your support group together - whoever that may be.
This is a big life event, so it's important to talk about it with the people who are going to be affected by it.
If you're married or in a long-term relationship, this is definitely a conversation you should have with your partner. Remember that they are going to be dealing with their own feelings, so be respectful of the time that they need.
If you're not married or in a long-term relationship, talk to your friends, family, or whomever you feel comfortable with. Just make sure that you have someone to talk to about this life-changing transition.
Sometimes, being pregnant can call to mind your own childhood, which can stir up some uncomfortable feelings. If you're feeling overwhelmed, it's okay to ask for help. Pregnancy can dredge up a lot of emotions from our childhood, some of which we aren't even aware of.
If you're feeling lost and don't know where to start, talking to a therapist or counselor may be a good option for you. However, let’s assure you of one thing - you get to choose the kind of parent that you are going to be.
Trust Your Gut
Let's be real...you have likely faced some tough situations in your life so far and handled it like a total badass. You got this too!
You are probably feeling like you don't have a lot of control right now, but that's not true. So trust your gut and go with what feels right for you.
There is no one right way to handle a pregnancy, let alone one that came as a surprise, so find what works for you! Not for your mom, sister, best friend, random person, but you.
That is what we are all about at Rumbly. But remember, you are not alone. At Rumbly, we are building a community of women (and men!) who want to support each other through this whole crazy adventure.
Join our community and see what we’re all about. Come check out our Instagram for all things pregnancy, from the funny to the cringeworthy. Of course, we want to get to know you too! So come introduce yourself and, if you’re feeling up to it, share your story.
As well, check out our amazing boxes designed to help you get through the next 9 months. From helping you feel pampered, extra special and cared for, to giving you options of some of the best (and safe) products for your pregnancy - sourced from around the world (and we don’t want to spoil it, but there are some really cool surprises once you sign up!), we have so much of what you never knew you wanted and needed!